White Lesson 6 of 30 Negotiation with Dominant/submissive ............

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White Lesson 5 0f 30 Submissive Course Rewards ...........

White Lesson  05/30

Submissive Course Rewards :

What you will need to complete today's lesson :

Packet of Stars
1X Separator for file.
1X Ice cream stick painted white.

Today is day 5 and we are going to use it as the start of a reward system being put in
place by the Dominant.

You as a new or as a re-learning submissive want to start training with your Dominant,
when a submissive has not been good He punishes her, but what about if you are well
behaved, you also want to be rewarded when you have been good.

A submissive wants to be reminded throughout the day of her Dominant's control; this
keeps a submissive in the correct mindset.

Just like when rules are in place it must be constant, then so should the rewards because
rewards are important to. Not only punish but to reward your submissive for compliance
and infractions. Your submissive needs to feel that you care and forgetting to dish out
what's earned is a sure sign to a submissive that you don't care. A Dominant can encourage
compliance and discourage infractions through a positive reward system.

Also try to reward more than punish, even if the submissive has created more infractions.
As long as they are putting good effort, give a few "get out of jail" free passes from time to
time. We are all human !

During this course every 5th day your Dominant will let you know if you have earned a star
for the 5 days if not your Dominant will let you know why not and what went wrong, when
He gives you your evaluation, this will help you in the future and it will make you as a
submissive try even harder to mould yourself into that good girl that all submissive's want
to be.

So every 5th day your Dominant will evaluate your progress thoroughly and will let you know
where your faults or good submission has been, so the Dominant needs to keep track of what's
been happening and how you as a submissive have been behaving. If you get 3 starts by day
15 or all 6 stars by day 30 your Dominant can give you as the submissive an extra reward.

Effort has been given to provide a combination of reward ideas suited for both Dominant
and submissive.

Here is a list of reward ideas :
A favourite submissive reward that most submissive's receive is "good girl", because that
    feeling of being a Dominant's pride is the best reward a submissive could get.
Playing out one of the submissive's scene ideas.
Romantic dinner.
Trip to town.
Intellectual  events such as lectures, book talks etc.
New sex toy.
A new book.
Outdoor adventures such as hiking.
A slab of chocolate.
A good reward can be to give your submissive a day off once in a while.
Give the submissive some free time.
Being intimate with your submissive.
A sensual massage.
Rewarding might also be done bringing out the toys.
Doing some bdsm play....Tying her up, spanking her, acting playful and more Dominant
   than usual.
Trying new games just let things be spicier, even if it doesn't get sexual.
A good reward would be to let your submissive have an orgasm.

In the end, for your Dominant to be able to reward you efficiently, it's necessary for Him to
get to know you, all your passions and what you like very well, because each submissive is
different.

Eventually, by pushing the right buttons and by rewarding you accordingly, it will be beneficial
to you and your Dominant.

Today's to do list :

1) Make a reward section in your file and show your Dominant.

2) Make a reward sheet of things your Dominant can give to you as rewards and show Him,
     when you make your reward list try thinking of at least 10 rewards that you as the
     submissive would like, because after all you are the one that will be receiving the reward.

3) Write rewards on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

4) Make a nice arty star page with space for 6 stars to be placed one for every 5th day. So on
     every 5th day of the course your Dominant will let you know if you have earned your star
     or not.

Grand Master Clinton
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Good Evening Master Jamy
Here is my work for today :

1) Make a reward section in your file and show your Dominant.

2) Make a reward sheet of things your dominant can give to you as rewards and show Him,
     when you make your reward list try thinking of at least 10 rewards that you as the
     submissive would like, because after all you are the one that will be receiving the reward.

3) Write rewards on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

4) Make a nice arty star page with space for 6 starts to be placed one every 5th day. So on
     every 5th day of the course your Dominant will let you know if you have earned your star
     or not.

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I hope you enjoyed this lesson learning all about Rewards and how they can benefit both
the Dominant and the submissive.  Leave a comment if you wish, love to hear from you 💋.

White Lesson 4 0f 30 Safe Words ........

White Lesson 4/30

SAFE WORDS :

Things that you will need today :

1X Ice cream stick painted white
2X Separators sections



Safe Word Reading :
A safe word is a code word or series of code words that are sometimes used in BDSM to mean that a bottom or submissive is reaching a limit or for the Top/Dom to stop the scene play. Safe words are agreed on by all participants before playing a scene.

A safe word is generally used so that the submissive can scream "no, stop", etc. as much as
she/he wants without really meaning it, and yet still have a way of indicating a serious desire that the scene stops. Accordingly, a safe word is usually a word that the person would not
ordinarily say during a scene, such as red, tree, anomaly, or even safe word.

Another conversation is the reversal of the safe word principle. For example, a signal can be
agreed on where the Top might put a finger in the bottoms hand if the bottom has become
non-verbal (which may happen as they reach sub space or may happen if they become dis-
tressed). In this scenario the bottom squeezes a predetermined number of times to indicate
that they are OK and happy to proceed. If the signal is not received, the scene must stop.

A common request from the Top to the bottom, to check on their status, is to ask "What is
your colour?". In addition to red and yellow, green is a common safe word used to indicate,
"I'm fine" or perhaps "more please !".

In the case of role-playing, some simply drop out of character to safe word, such as having
the submissive address the Dominant by His/her first names. It is not enough just to drop out of role playing because this can be a lapse on the part of the role player and might otherwise
be a matter for discipline.

If used, the "stop" safe word should be respected unconditionally. After the bottom uses the
safe word , the activity or entire scene is over, inflicting pain or any physical forcing should be
stopped and all restraints should be removed immediately. Ignoring safe words is considered dishonourable and a deeply immoral practice in the BDSM community and can lead to
criminal charges. (The 'yellow safe word" mentioned above is however not obligatory.) The
precise safe word(s) should be discussed clearly; if one is used to one word and the other used
to another word, there is little harm in agreeing that either word will act as a safe word.

The fact that a safe word might have been agreed on does not lessen the Top's responsibilities for the well-being of the sub under the Top's control. It is quite possible that  the sub may not be in an alert enough mental state or to be distressed to issue the safe word when in fact the scene has gone beyond what they can endure. The Top should always take active steps to check on the mental and physical state of their sub and not just assume the sub will "call time" when they have had enough.

Forms of Safe Words :
A safe word makes it possible for a submissive to say "No" or "Stop" and pretend as much as he or she wants without really meaning it while still having a safe way of indicating they seriously need the scene to stop. In theory a safe word is usually a word that the person would not ordinarily say during sex, such as ziggurat, Amie, or pinech.  With the range of safe words in common use it is important that the safe word be negotiated beforehand.

Some partners may also have different gradations of safe words, such as green to mean "Okay" or even "harder" or "more", "yellow"  to mean slow down, or "stop doing that" without stopping the scene and "red" to mean stop the scene. In this fashion, a Dominant partner may ask the submissive partner "What is your colour ?" to check with a submissive partner without having to stop the scene.

In other circumstances the safe word may not be a "word" at all, which is very useful when the submissive is bound and gagged. In these instances a signal such as dropping a bell or a ball, the snapping of fingers, or opening and closing both hands repeatedly or making three clear rhythmic grunts as a predefined signal to stop or otherwise slow down the scene. There is also a convention of Tops to put a finger in the submissive's hand as a sort of check in when the submissive has become non-verbal, such as may happen as they reach sub space. In this scenario the submissive squeezes the Tops finger to indicate OK.

Effects of Use :
A red safe word is only used when one of the partners needs it to end a scene. Many submissive partners may see the use of a safe word as being weak, and will push themselves past their "comfort" zone to please their partner. This may allow a submissive partner to expand their boundaries and learn what they are capable of but may also expose them to risk if they are pushed too far. Additionally, many Dominant partners may interpret the use of a safe word as a failure on their part, ie, failing to understand body language, to know their partner, or loss of control. This is also why gradations of safe words and/or actions that signify a scene may be becoming too much are commonly used (ie, Yellow) so that the partners can safely adjust the scene before crossing boundaries.

It is considered important in many parts of the BDSM community that the use of safe words should remain "no-fault" so that participants feel encouraged to use it if necessary. Discouraging the use of safe words runs the risk of scenes becoming non-consensual, harming Trust between partners and potentially damaging to their mental and emotional state.

A Top will often sensibly make clear beforehand that they will not agree to a scene if they do not believe the submissive will use the safe word as soon as they need to, and the submissive will not delay using the safe word and endure more than they really want to, simply to avoid disappointing the Top, since the Top will be far ore upset if they unwittingly inflict psychological trauma. In addition, intentionally disregarding the activation of a safe word is considered a serious ethical violation.

While many in the BDSM community consider safe words to be as essential part of safe play, there is a contingent that chooses to occasionally play without using safe words. They rely on the Dominant partner to monitor the condition of the submissive partner and stop if necessary, at their discretion. In such circumstances the "submissive" or Dominant must have consented not to have control over the duration of the scene in advance, this is often referred to as consensual non consent. Also, some people who routinely play with each other may agree to stop using safe words because they know each other's boundaries and are able to read each other's body language well. In any case "consensual non consent" is risky and advanced activity.

"Consensual non consent" may also occur if the Top and the submissive are re-enacting a punishment scene (eg. a shipboard flogging) in which the offender, played by the submissive, is sentenced to receive a certain number of lashes as punishment. Since the offender would not be able to use a safe word in such circumstances, the parties re-enacting the scene agree that it would be "out of character" for them to do so.

That's all for now, Stay Safe and Play Safe.



First of all before you do anything else, or go any further make sure you have a safe word.

To begin with, let's first define what a "safe word" is.
A safe word is a word chosen by a submissive and given to the Dominant that will halt a
scene whenever a submissive feels that their physical, emotional or mental safety is
threatened, or that a hard limit has been reached.

In addition to a safe word, many couples also rely upon "safe signals" for the same purposes,
since  submissive;s may participate in scenes in which they are gagged or otherwise unable
to communicate verbally.

Here are some safe signals :

1.) The submissive can finger snap.
2) The submissive can use a dog trainers clicker to raise an alarm.
3) The submissive can use hand signals.
4) The submissive can make three clear and rhythmic grunts as a pre-defined signal to stop.
5) The Dominant can place a finger in submissive's hand, the submissive can squeeze to stop.
6) The submissive can use a sash or handkerchief that can be dropped.
7) The submissive can use a blink pattern where the submissive will do Morse with her eye-
     lids. An SOS should work well.  (Simple blink for a dot, scrunch in the rest of the bit
     around your eyes for a dash).
8) The submissive can hold a set of keys or any other type of noisy item in your hand to drop
     when needed.
9) While gagged if you have tried it and get it right the submissive can start humming a soing.
10) The submissive can stamp her foot.

Can you think of any safe signals to use that have not been mentioned ?

Safe words :

I recommend using at least two safe words:one for "lighten up" and one for "stop completely".
Make sure that today you tell your Dominant/submissive what your safe words will be and
please make sure never to forget them.

1) Safe word 1 and it's meaning : (lighten up) ?
2) Safe word 2 and it's meaning: (stop completely) ?
3) Non-verbal safe words and their meaning: ?
4) Will the "two squeezes" technique be used ?
5) Will the "extended hand" technique be used ?

When are some proper times for a safe word to be used ?

1) When the pain, or scene is too intense for you ?
2) When you feel afraid of what is going on ?
3) When you have a question about what is going on ?
4) When you have taken all that you feel capable of enduring ?
5) When something has triggered a memory, which is painful or scary to you ?
6) When something feels a bit off to you -- be it mentally, physically, or emotionally ?
7) When something in the scene has pushed past a limit of your comfort zone ?

Can you think of some for yourself that we have not mentioned ?

What are some times you wouldn't use a safe word:

1) When you are being punished for an infraction, and you can still handle the punishment ?
2) When something is NOT hurting you -- be it mentally, emotionally, or physically ?
3) When a boundary or limit is not being pushed ?
4) When you are simply having a normal conversation that is not heated ?

Can you think of some of your own ?

Today's To Do List :

1) Make a Safety section in your File.

2) Make a Discussion section in Your File.

3) In your Safety section write both your's and your Dominant's safe words, also write the
    non-verbal safe words that will be used.

4) In your Discussion section of your File answer all the questions in this lesson and write
     them neatly and place your finished work in your file.

5) Send all your finished work to your dominant.

6) Write safe words on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

Grand Master Clinton
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Good Evening Master Jamy
Here is my work for today :

1. Make a Safety section in your File.

2. Make a Discussion section in your File.

3. In your Safety section write both your's and your Dominant's safe words, also write the
    non-verbal safe words that will be used.

4. In your Discussion section answer all the questions in this lesson and write them neatly
    and place your finished work in your File.

5. Send all your finished work to your Dominant.     Completed.
   

6. Write safe words on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

                                     

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I hope and pray that you all enjoyed working on this lesson and learning all about Safe

Words and all about Safety. This is a great lesson to keep in your mind and review it when 

you seem to forget your meanings and your own Safe Words also your Dominant's Safe 

       Words and His Signals. Play Safe and Stay Safe. But most of all have Fun ......

I would love to hear any of your comments !!!

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White Lesson 3 0f 30 My Submissive Binder .......

White Lesson 3/30

My submissive Binder

What you will ned to complete today :

1X File
Goodies and wrapping paper to cover and decorate it.
Separators
1X Ice cream stick painted white.


Create your submissive binder/file.

In very little time you can create a submissive binder that will work for you in keeping what
you prepared, on track, up to date, and organised.

It comes down to four components : binder, paper, dividers, and pockets.

Don't you just love the idea of EVERYTHING submissive being in one place ?

So, what would a new submissive put in a file ?
This file will be used for you to keep track of punishments you were given, had and soft
limits *as it can become a long list) rules, tasks and you can catalogue so much more. The
best part of this is that you will have everything you need for your submission in one place.

You can make a punishment section in your file for all those punishments that you may
or may not get.

So with a little creativity, you can turn a perfectly plain binder into something that's cooler
than anything you can but in the store. Plus, this new binder will be uniquely submissively
"you".

Okay so you have your Binder/file now give it a nice cover and show your Dominant.

Many submissive's really don't know what they have to offer, especially in the beginning
of your submissive journey, when you as a submissive, are still in that shaky new area,
where you are just learning how to walk without falling on you submissive face.

By making a file and eventually turning it into you submissive resume ( at a much later
stage this gets made), you will be able to have everything you know and have learned about
D/s in one place. So at a later stage in life when you are approached by a new Dominant
you can show Him all your work and courses.

Why is it good to keep these things, and have them written down ? Well simply because
one day a Dominant might look at your file and think -- wow, she's not only cute and
respectful, but what she has done and learned and what she brings to the table in service,
would be VERY useful to me.

One day you will look through your own file and GASP then say I know, I did this all. You
will end up feeling very proud of yourself.

You will look at it and say hang on; I am a submissive with THIS much skill and this much
to offer.

Documenting your experience and all your work is a good exercise to do, and will at least
make you feel better on days that you are feeling that you can't do anything right.

You will be able to look back at all the good things you as a submissive can do.

You will be able to go back and look at research you have done and maybe even add a
few things on one day when you know more so today this is a blank empty decorated file
but at the end of this course it will be something out of this world and amazing.

Today's to do list :

1) Cover and decorate your submissive file.

2) Put your blank separators in.

3) Write file on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

4) Send photos to  your Dominant.



Grand Master Clinton.

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Good evening Master Jamy
Here is my work for today.

1) Cover and decorate your submissive file.

2) Put your blank separators in. 

3) Write file on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

4) Send photos to your Dominant.

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I hope and pray that you enjoyed making and decorating your submissive file.

I know I had a lot of fun making mine and showing it all to my Dominant.

Until next lesson continue growing and learning. 

White Lesson 2 of 30 Interview Your Potential Dominant/submissive .......

White Lesson 2/30

Interview your potential Dominant/submissive.


What you will need to complete today !

1X Ice cream stick painted white

Your Dominant/submissive is out there, seeking you, hungering for you, wondering where you are, so let's do something about it today. Have you ever thought about how you will conduct yourself during this type of interview, and how will you handle yourself during the interview because lets face it, it's a very important interview and it can be nerve wrecking and you can also forget some of the questions you want to ask.

Today we cover this with you and try help you get through a lot of questions that will help get to know one another, however you are always welcome to add some extra questions that you can ask a potential Dominant/submissive on top  of the questions given to you today in the course, so maybe if there are a few that you would like to ask add them to the bottom of the page and ask away, after all this is all about getting to know one another better.

Over the past few years, as I have explored the lifestyle, one of the recurring questions I've heard is...... How do I find a good Dominant ? Or how do I find a good submissive ? There are several articles on the Net suggesting places to look.....local D/s BDSM groups, introductions from friends, online, personal,munches, etc. (This can be scary, intimidating and/or sometimes even dangerous). What I haven't run across yet is someone asking me.... what questions should I ask a prospective Dominant/submissive once I've found one of interest ? If you are evaluating a potential life mate for a D/s relationship, these questions could be just a start of a lifetime of conversations.

Here are some tips. Be sweet but sceptical. There are relatively few quality, single, monogamous Dominant's in the world, an awful lot of the so-called Dominant's you're likely to meet, are insincere and/or unsafe especially on kink sites. Don't give a stranger the benefit of the doubt. Don't grant Him more trust that He's earned.

Present your questions as expressions of interest. Your objective is information, but let Him see that you're intrigued by Him and want to know all about Him. And proceed at a relaxed pace, making space for Him to query you about things. Start with instant messaging, it's interactive, and you can tell something about the Dominant from the speed and clarity of His answers. However, email may work better than IM via phone, since typing on a tiny screen is slow and error-prone. Make phone calls without caller-ID. When ready to continue the discussion by phone, make a talk appointment, and place the call yourself, so you can hide your number. Re ask important questions a few times, over they answered questions previously, so you'll hear inconsistent responses. So what questions should I ask a prospective Dominant once I've found one of interest ? This could even be named how do I interview a potential "Top/Dominant/Master/Mistress/bottom/submissive/charge/slave".

Also if you hear something in an answer that intrigues you, or concerns you, or surprises you, ask more about it. To get the details, you can use follow up questions, referring to the specific point you wish to clarify, such as :

1. You mentioned              . That's really interesting to me. Can you please tell me more about that ?
2. I'm not sure I understand                ; can you give me an example of what you mean ?
3. Fascinating.... why do you feel                 was important ?
4. That's just the kind of answer I was hoping to hear......  tell me more about it, please.

By doing it this way you will probably lean as much about a person by what they "don't" tell you as what they do.

Another thing is how long do they take to answer a question ? Do they evade it, or redirect it, or suddenly have to take a phone call ? Avoidance of a question is a big RED FLAG.

Please make sure you answer the section that says questions for both, and also the section that says questions for submissive to answer and send to the Dominant, then there is a question to answer right at the bottom.

Questions for both Dominant and submissive to answer and send to one another :

Your role's as Dominant and submissive.

1) Who will be questioned as the Dominant and answering the only Dominant questions ?
     Master Jamy
2) Who will be questioned as the submissive and answering the only submissive questions ?
     submissive kitten
Let's start off with some Character Questions :

1) Please tell me a story of your childhood that will help me better understand the person you        are today ?
     When I was growing up I actually had a good childhood my mother and father were
     until I was 11 years old and then got divorced but I spent my time growing up and still
     got to see my dad. My mom taught me a lot in my youth and nothing really bad
     happened, so I would say I had a pretty average childhood.
     I had a normal childhood with two brothers and two sisters. I was the youngest and
     I was my Dad's little girl and always wanted to make my Dad happy & proud of me.
     My siblings say that Dad spoilt me and I didn't get along aw with my Mom.
2) What do you feel is your greatest failure so far, and what did you learn from it ?
     I had a very prestigious job in my early twenties and I messed it up because that time in
     my life I thought that friends and partying were more important than anything else it has
     a lot of promise that's probably the greatest failure of all.
     I married  a young man that my father wished I would at the young age of 20. After 10
     years my marriage broke down and we got divorced.  I learned that I needed to                             communicate better to my partner to be the head of the household and to give me some
     directions. I feel this was my biggest failure.
3) What do you feel is your greatest success ?
     I've recorded a few songs in the studio and won a couple of battle of the bands regional
     in South Africa. I still work hard at my talents which is music.
     I have raised my two children to be good christians, they are my pride and joy. After raising
     my children, I went into College and earned my degree in Business Management School. I
     this part of my life to be my greatest fulfilling success.
4) Who has been the most influential person in your life, up till now, and why ?
     I would say my father has been although he wasn't there is for parts of my life, he always
     instilled wisdom and I am very grateful to him and everything he has done for me even
     still today.
     My parents, my father he lead and directed the family growing up and mom she always
     listened to what father said. my mom showed submissive traits to my father. This is 
     where I grew up with seeing how a Dominant/submissive would be somewhat like.
5) What do you feel are your strengths, and what do you feel you would like to change or                 improve ?
     My strengths are I'm a very compassionate person and I trust easily which has proved 
     wrong in the passed, but I always give someone new the benefit of the doubt in most
     situations. Over time I've learned to have a lot more patience and I am still working on that.
     My strengths are that I try my best, I'm loyal and honest. Because of being on the shy side
     I need to improve in my confidence and open up easier to people.
6) How would you describe your personal values and beliefs ?
     My personal values and beliefs are always be open and honest in any situation no matter
     how hard it may be to talk about, rather the ugly truth than a beautiful lie. I believe in
     honesty, trust and fairness.
     I have a christian life and believe in God. I value honesty and the truth no matter how it
     may hurt someone's feelings they need to hear the truth. I believe a christian submissive
     can live a fulfilling life in the Dom/sub lifestyle, it would help also if my Dom had some
     belief in God and supported me. 
7) What are your life dreams and ambitions ?
     In the future I will be a Great Grand Master, it's going to take time but I will get there and
     I also want to Dominate the South African music scene.
     Mu first dream was to be a clothing designer and with events throughout my life it changed
     into a dream of Running a Major Department Store of my own and I fulfilled that dream.
     Now I've turned my ambitions to being the best of me as a true submissive with a very kind
     and loving Dom.
8) What question are you dreading that I will ask ?
     Will you marry me hahaha.
     What has caused you to come to me for guidance and instruction.
9) What question do you hope I will ask you ?
     You can ask me anything actually, I really don't mind at all.
     If I would love being a slave to your Dom.
Here are some Life Questions :

1) I'd like to get more of a feel for you. What does your home look like ? Is it a house,                      apartment, condo, or what ? (If you are communicating online or on the phone) Describe the      room you are in right now or describe your favourite room of the house.
    I live in a five bedroom house, it's got a big front and back garden with a lapa. I'm sitting
    in the lounge answering the questions for you. My favourite room would be my bedroom
    of course.
     I live in a four bedroom house, the front yard is small with a tall tree to shade the living
     room from the sun. In the back yard there is a patio area, some grass and a small space
     for a garden. Right now I'm in the computer room answering all these questions for you
     Master Jamy.  I share this house with a girl friend and my favourite room is the living room
     where we share each other's company. As you may now see I don't live with any Dom and
     now on my own.
2) Would you tell me a bit about the past relationships in your life ?
     Most of life I've been in vanilla relationships and they were good while it lasted, I've had
     long fulfilling ones but that's all in the past and I'm on search for a submissive to collar
     one day.
     I had a vanilla relationship with my husband that was not fulfilling for me.  In one of my last 
     relationships it started out very good then slowly as he drank the beatings started and they
     got so bad that I was hospitalized. He acted like a  Dominant but was not a true one. After
     my last hospital visit of being beaten badly, pregnant and bleeding, it resulted in losing my
     baby and no chance of having anymore. I don't like to remember that part of my life and I
     try to forget and move on from it.
3) Why are you looking for a partner ow ? What is your current relationship status ?
     I am single now and I'm only looking to train you as my submissive before I make a 
     decision to collar her, but it's definitely something I am going to do.
     I am single and have tried two vanilla relationships that were sexually unfulfilling  and two         who say they were a Dominant but were abusive towards me and didn't act like a Dominant
     should be like (patient, loving,trustworthy,truthful, etc). I wish to be in a loving and                       comfortable caring relationship with a true Dominant whom I can serve as His submissive.
4) Do you face any health issues ? If yes, what are they ?
     No I don't have any health issues. I'm pretty fit and healthy.
     Sad to say yes I do have two health issues, they are high blood pressure which is under 
     control and mild COPD which is being controlled with medication. For more strenuous
     activities sometimes I just need a minute or two to get my breath back under control.
5) What do you like to do for leisure activities ?
     I like to go for long walks and runs also like to keep fit. I play indoor cricket and also love
     my music which I do every Friday night.
     I like to read, scrapbooking, going for leisure walks especially along the ocean beaches.
     I also like to go quading (ATV's) in the mountains . I have started a yoga class for fitness.
6) What kind of car do you drive, and why did you buy that one ?
     Currently I don't have a cor, mine was stolen so it's a bit tricky at the moment but it's 
     only temporary.
     I own a Small Truck, I feel more safer sitting up higher and can see traffic better. This is
     why I bought it. I used to own a sports car until I seen what it looks like in an accident.
7) Describe two typical days for you....one of your work days, and one of your days off.
     Work hours are hectic when in the workshop and always busy, but when I'm at home I
     relax and just have leisure time, spend it with family and friends.
     I work with an Accounting Firm doing some help there 2 0r 3 times a week, and I also have 
     my own clients where I do at home via internet. I usually spend Saturdays cleaning and
     doing some laundry. Sundays I go to Church and have coffee  with the congregation after
     wards in the fellowship hall.
8) What did you study in school ? What were your favorite courses ? Did you have any                       teachers who influenced you more that others ?
     I was in a technical high school and finished in 1989. We only had six subjects, they were
     English, Afrikaans, Math, Science, Technical, Drawing, and my trade subject which was
     metal craft or steel work. I studied nothing further.
     We had English, Math, Science, Social Studies, Textiles (cooking & sewing), Wood Working
     and Mechanics, English Lit. I took all the courses except Wood Working & Mechanics and I
     majored in Sewing & Designing ( which was  my plan to become a clothing designer). I had
     two teachers that influenced me, my Math  teacher he always said he is here to teach the
     that needed teaching, I was allowed to go at my own pace and completed all my Math
     courses in grade 8 ( completing 5 years in 1 year) and the other teacher He noticed I had a
     bit of a reading problem and coached me in how to correct it and live with it.

Mixed, getting to know one another questions :

1) What is your favourite food ?
     Cheese Burgers          Pizza
2) What is the #1 most played song on your I Pod/Mp3 player ?
     5 minutes alone b Pantera     Mp3 - All of Me Loves All of You by John Legend
3) What is one of your favourite quotes ?
     Live, Love and Laugh      Eat, drink & be Merry
4) What is your favourite indoor activity ?
     Indoor Cricket and Football      Playing Games or Reading
5) What is your favourite outdoor activity ?
     Cricket on a full pitch , going to concerts and being involved in music.
     Going for walks and walking or swim in the ocean.
6) What chore do you absolutely hate doing ?
     I don't like ironing.       I dislike cleaning the toilet.
7) What is your favourite form of exercise ?
     Full body workout.        Exercise Bicycle and Dancing.
8) Do you prefer going to a restaurant or a dinner for 2 at home ?
     Both but restaurant more.       I prefer two at home, but will accept a restaurant.
9) What is your least favourite mode of transportation ?
     Africans taxi           Riding on a Motorcycle.
10) What is your favourite body part ?
     My chest.          My breasts.
11) What sound do you love ?
      Sounds of new bass guitar strings         The sound of Birds singing.
12) What is your date of birth ?
      01 November 1970          10 November 1968
13) What is your all time favourite movie ?
      300 Spartans             Titanic
14) What type of movie interest you ?
      I like most movies as long as the story line is good, but horror and comedy and some 
      animation is good to watch.
      I do like most movies but Romance, Suspense, Si-fi and Thrillers are more of my 
      favourites.

Would you rather..... :

1) Go to a play or musical ?
     Musical          Play
2) Go to the theatre or a movie ?
     Movie             Movie
3) Hike or bike ?
     Hike                Hike
4) Read on a Kindle or paperback book ? This question is a starter for may possible                          conversations on reading, favourite books, technology, libraries, bookstores, and more.
     Kindle             Kindle
5) Wear jeans or chinos ?
     Jeans              Neither, prefer Dresses or Casual Slacks
6) Crash with friends or stay in a hotel ?
     Crash with friends     Stay with friends
7) Go skiing or snowshoeing ?
     Skiing             Neither, don't care for either
8) Travel by plane, train, or automobile ?
     Plane             Plane
9) Go to a comedy club or dance club ?
     Comedy Club       Comedy Club
10) Watch TV or read a book ?
     Watch TV       Read a Book while the TV is playing
11) Go canoeing or water skiing
     Water Skiing        Neither, never went water skiing, canoeing to unstable for me.
12) Camp in an RV or stay in a tent  ?
     In a Tent.        In an RV.
13) Use Face book or Twitter ?
     Facebook       Facebook
14) Win the lottery or find your perfect job ?
     Perfect Job      Find my Perfect Job
15) Swim in a pool or the ocean ?
     In the Ocean of course.         I love the Ocean.
16) Salt water and waves crashing on the beach or temperature controlled, lovely water all               year round ?
     The Salt water with waves crashing on the beach.
     The Salt water and waves crashing on the beach.
17) Travel by sailboat or cruise ship ?
     Sail boat.         Sail boat.
18) Watch sports or play sports ?
     Both, but I like to watch.        Not really into sports.
19) Dominant and submissive together discuss what will you call one another from now on ?
     You can call me Master Jamy or Master and I will call you Kitten or submissive or good
     girl.         I will call you Master and you can call me Kitten or Master's choice.
20) Tell one another why you chose that name ?
     It's a fitting Title for me as I am the training Dominant and I prefer to give the
     submissive a new name.
     I choose Master as it shows Respect to my Dominant and a pet name like kitten shows
     affection towards the submissive.
21) Tell your potential Dominant/submissive why you want to be in this D/s relationship ?
     The pleasure of teaching and training someone new and teach you kitten the real 
     meaning and value behind bdsm. It's an honour in itself.
     Master Jamy I wish to be in this relationship with you so that I may learn and grow in
     my submission in a good and correct way.
22) What do you want out of this ?
     That you become the best submissive that you can be and it is a pleasure in itself for 
     me as your Dominant to train you.
     I want to learn and grown as a submissive so I may submit to my Dominant and Master,
     while pleasing Him in my submission.
23) How do you want to feel ?
     To be constantly trusted and honoured.
     To feel loved, happy, safe and trusted.
24) Have you ever felt the way you want to feel ?
     Yes because I had a submissive and have trained submissive's before.
     Yes and No, I felt loved some but never felt safe, trusted.
25) If yes on 24 under what circumstances ?
     That I have gained the respect and trust through constant training of my submissive and
     have guided  other submissives to reach their potential.
     I have felt loved some but not fully, nor have I felt safe, protected, cherished by my last
     other Dominants.
26) What parts of your body do you tend to feel most protective of ?
     Nothing actually.       My heart and feelings.
27) Have you been tied up before ?
     No, I do the tying up always !      Yes I've been tied up.
28) Have you tied anyone else up before ?
     Yes, I have many times.           No, I haven't been allowed.
29) What kind of pain do you enjoy giving/receiving ?
     I enjoy giving a lot of pain, I can be a bit of a sadist.
     I have a medium pain threshold but I prefer to receive the pain through floggers, crop,
     spankings, and I believe most Dominants are a bit of a sadist.
30) What experience do you have with kink ?
     I have a few years experience already. Have taken training in pain/pleasure, forced
     orgasms, abrasion play and many more.
     My experience with kink in the proper sense is low, I have experience in wax play,pain/
     pleasure play and I have also have had experience with abusive/beatings relationships.
31) What sort of power dynamics/exchange are you interested in working with ?
     Dominant and submissive.
     Dom/sub, I'm not sure if I want to be slave again, last one was I flet unsafe and in danger.
32) What kind of mood is ideal for you ?
     Happy.       Happy but can be mischievous.
33) What other kinks do you have ?
     I have a lot here.      I enjoy being bound and tied.  
34) What have other Dominant's/submissive's done that you have loved ?
     Just being Obedient and doing the best that you can all the time will pay off.
     Going to a masked party and being dressed in corsets and lace etc.
35) What have other Dominant's/submissive's done that have bothered you ?
     Not handing in their work or ignored or lied to me which is one things that I do not have
     any patients for.
     Hearing of submissives going into dungeon scenes, pain and torture
36) What is a hard limit that you have that you can think of right now ?
     Don't ignore me and don't lie to me.         Sadism/masochism
37) Do you have any health issues I should be aware of such as allergies, ongoing or old                     injuries ?
     No, I have no health issues at all.       I have a mild breathing problem.
38) Do you experience any mental illness that might impact playing ?
     No, I don't.            No, I don't.
39) Do you take any drugs or medications on a regular basis ?
     No, I don't.             Yes, on a puffer for breathing.
40) Do you have any breathing or circulation issues ?
     No, I don't.            Yes, just breathing.
41) Do you have any medication you might need to take quickly or regularly ?
     No, I don't.            Yes, just my puffer.
42) How long have you been involved in the D/s lifestyle, and what led you to it in the first
       place ?
     Ten years, vanilla life was not fulfilling for me.
      Twenty years, the relationship with Master William seen the submissiveness in me.
43) Do you have or plan to have more than one Dominant/slave/submissive ?
     No, you'll be my only submissive.
     I prefer to have only one dominant and only me.
44) What sort of relationship are you looking for ? Online only, phone, real world, potential
       marriage/permanent partner ?
     Online for now and work towards a potential permanent partner.
     I want a real world relationship and work towards a potential permanent partner.
45) How much time are you willing to devote to your Dominant/submissive ?
     As much time as possible and as much time as needed.
     As much time as possible with both of us working and with how much time is necessary.
46) How much of His/her time would you require in return ?
     The exact same.    It would be nice to have the same amount of time.
47) Would you have daily contact with your Dominant/submissive ?
     Yes of course I will, every single day.     Yes, I would love to have daily contact every day.
48) Do you indulge in these pleasures with women/men in "real life" ?
     Yes, but if something arises I will discuss it with my submissive first.
     Yes and only with my Dominant.
49) If so, what precautions for health and safety are involved ?
     Safety is of the utmost importance to me always.
     Safety is important and to always use a condoms and monthly health checks until the
     relationship becomes permanent.
50) What type of safety precautions do you feel are necessary for an online or phone relation-
       ship ?
     That will be openness, honesty and trust. Communication must be clear and to the 
     point always.
     For an online/phone relationship there must be open and honest communication and 
     I suggest having a back ground check for there are many phony and deceiving Dominants
     as well as submissives out there ready to prey on others.
51) What made you decide this was for you ?
     It was something I was always curious about but only late in life decided to change my
     lifestyle and become a Dominant.
     I have always had this feeling of wanting to please the partner that I was with. But it was
     later while in a relationship that he seen submissiveness in me and used it to his a
     advantage. Then in another relationship this Dominant I was with but didn't want to teach
     me properly as He didn't follow any lifestyle rules.Then I found this course and Master 
     Jamy and I wanted to be trained and taught the true ways of being a submissive. I knew
     from being a teenager that I was a little different and I was my daddy's little girl and I 
     wanted to make the male in my life happy and proud of me, his little girl.

Dominant Only :

1) What sort of training/education have you had to be the Dominant member of this
     relationship ?
     I have great mentors and I've been training for ten years now and with certificates.
2) Have you had experience training a submissive that is new to D/s ?
     Yes, I have and now I want to have a submissive of my own to train, love and cherish.
3) What do you require of your submissive and of yourself ?
     That we both give our all and do your best as this can be a very great experience for
     the both of us.
4) What sort of structured training do you prefer to use (Just the course or your added own
     training ) ?
     Let's use the course training for now and as the course goes on and we decide that we
     both wish to make this a permanent relationship and a real one and then I will add
     some of my own training to it.
5) Do you have any references available that I might contact ?
     Yes, I do... The Honourable Great Grand Master Clinton. Grand Master Ethan. Grand
     Master Ryan. Grand Master Edward. Grand Master Bradley.
Now you asked one another questions, what happens next ?
     It's time to decide.

Decide :

1) (Dominant) Do you want her to be your submissive ?
     Yes, I do.
2) (submissive) Do you want to submit to Him as your Dominant ?
     Yes, I do.
If both questions above have been answered yes then does the submissive agree to address the Dominant by the following title(s) ?
     Master Jamy --- Yes, I do
     Sir --- Yes, I do.

Today's to do list :

1) Read all the work.  -- Completed

2) Answer all the questions honestly.  Completed

3) Send it to your Dominant.  Completed

4) Make a copy of the Dominant and the submissive's questions and answers and keep it in a        safe place.   Completed

5) Write interview on your Ice cream stick and keep it.

Grand Master Clinton.

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I hope you all enjoyed this lesson on how to interview a potential Dominant/submissive.
I enjoyed it at the time I did this lesson and I learned so much on how to conduct a very
good and productive interview.

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