White Lesson 16/30
SAFE, SANE & CONSENSUAL (SSC) :
What you will need to complete today :
3X Ice cream sticks painted white.
When you first enter the BDSM community one of the largest , most used phrases you will
here is SSC, also known as Safe, Sane and Consensual.
Many people just starting in the lifestyle have had a very limited dealings with other people
who are into BDSM. Their ideas and experiences are often limited to books they have read,
scenarios they have imagined, and relationships they may have had in cyberspace. All of
these realms are very often firmly rooted in fantasy and can bear little if any resemblance to
real life. This, many people new to the lifestyle have some very unrealistic expectations about
how to behave and how others might treat them.
As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and well.
As a submissive, you have a lot of responsibility to keeping yourself safe and well.
Safe, sane and consensual (SSC) in the BDSM community, are common principles guiding
relationships and activities.
The principles are that BDSM activities should be :
Safe : attempts should be made to identify and prevent risks to health.
Sane : activities should be undertaken in a sane and sensible frame of mind.
Consensual : all activities should involve the full consent of all parties involved.
Saff, Sane and Consensual, except to hear this phrase over and over. What "safe, sane and
consensual" basically means is that you take precautions to prevent accidents, you don't
do anything that is obviously dangerous, and you know your play partner and negotiate in
advance what activities you are both willing to engage in. It also means defining and
using of safe words during play. Safe, sane and consensual means no one is ever obligated
to do anything they don't want to, even if it was something they previously agreed to.
Anyone who does not live up to this standard is not safe to play with.
Some people in the BDSM community do not consider SSC to be an accurate term for
these relationships or activities. The term Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) is
sometimes used as a substitute description, but that will be done on a different lesson
in the course.
Definition --- What does Safe, Sane and Consensual ( SSC ) mean ?
SAFE
Safe is being knowledgeable about the techniques and safety concerns involved in what
you are doing, and acting in accordance with that knowledge. Safety includes the
responsibility of protecting yourself and your partner from STD ( sexually transmitted
disease ) infection including the HIV virus.
Some people who enjoy kink aren't into gadgetry or fancy equipment, but others are.
Some obvious equipment with the potential for damage are sensory deprivation masks,
urethral sounds, genital clamps, and suspension devices, but even simpler tools such
as rope, belts, or paddles could leave lasting damage or even prove fatal if play partners
aren't adequately prepared. Sudy up, not just on use of your equipment, but on basic
human anatomy, too. Some parts of the body , like on the back near the kidneys, are
riskier places to be struck. Consider the risk of losing circulation if you're playing with
rope or her. Make sure your submissive can breathe if you're using a ball gag or mask.
Practice whipping a pillow before trying is on your submissive.
Practice trying basic knots before attempting more intricate bondage.
Minimize burn risks uf you're playing with hot wax.
While most essays you read will undoubtedly say that you need to play safely with
respect to using barriers, which you play with and within your knowledge level or
experience level none of them touch on relationship safety.
Safety as far as relationships go would be protecting what you feel to be valuable.
This would be your limits, your needs and wants and any other substantial believe
systems you already have in place. such as religion or family ties.
You also want to protect your physical and emotional safety. During negotiations for a
relationship, or just getting to know one another, figure out how your partner plans to
take care of you and if they will allow you some leeway in how you can care for your
self if needed. Even slaves have responsibility to make sure that their emotional and
physical well-being is taken care of.
These might sound like a lot of rules, but if your partner trusts you with his or her body,
you need to be able to trust yourself, too. Emotional safety is as important as
physical safety when it comes to sex and power play, which brings us to the second
item of the BDSM ethics code.
SANE
Sane knows the difference between fantasy and reality.
In BDSM practice, this requires considerable introspection on the part of both Dominant
and submissive partners. Ask yourself, are the activities we're engaging in going to open
emotional wounds, and do I trust my partner to take care of me in a state of vulnerability ?
Do I have a handle on my sadism, and am I capable of balancing it with loving kindness ?
Am I doing this because I enjoy it, or out of a sense of quilt or obligation ? Check in with
yourself and your partner, and don't be afraid to set limits based on what feels emotionally
safe for you. Play only with partners with whom you know you limits will be respected. Do
not equate genuine cruelty with kink.
If establishing ahead of time because you don't know what your limits are, another way
to ensure sanity and safety is to agree on a "safe word" for moments when things no
longer feel safe or OK. In many cases, this word is never used, but there's no shame in
having one handy. The use of a safe word connects to the third and final descriptor in
the BDSM ethics code.
Sane also distinguished between mental illness and health. A real distinction between
mental illness and health is when a behaviour pattern causes problems in a person's life.
Washing our hands until the skin is peeling off, or so frequently that you can not otherwise
function is a sign mental illness. For sanity the essays out there stick with knowing fantasy
from reality and not acting on fantasy. There is so much more attached to the word sane
though, what about expectations of service; keep them realistic. No submissive should be
expected to learn 4 pages of rules and protocol in a short period of time or kneel for hours
on end without a break. This is what fantasy porn is made of.
Also, listen to your gut about red flags and uneasiness. You generally don't have invalid
feelings when you feel it in your gut. If something feels crazy, then it's perfectly okay to
investigate it. Keep it yourself sane.
CONSENSUAL :
Consensual is respecting the limits imposed by each participant at all times.
Most forms of BDSM involve the creative surrender or takeover of control; however, this
works harmoniously only between two or more consenting partners. Establishing consent
may seem murky when people are playing out fantasies that involve force or domination,
but there are many ways to ensure your partner is enjoying his or her experience. Agreeing
on a safe word is important, as is respect between partners.
The idea of respect may seem confusing or even comical if humiliation or shame is integral
to your fantasy. Rather than focusing on respectful words or behaviours, we can think of
respect as an overall commitment to mutual safety and pleasure. Submissive partners are
responsible for communicating their own limits, and Dominant's should be committed to
the quality of their subs experiences. Look at your partner's face; look at his or her body
language. Notice any tension that exists for you alone or between you and your partner.
Trust your gut.
The type and parameters of control are agreed upon by the people involved, and the ongoing
consent of the participants is required. Some practitioners use safe word, which is a
designated word that signals the scene must slow down or stop.
Of course the two or more parties involved should agree to the play activities, it's pretty
much a given. BDSM isn't about forcing the unwilling at all. But also, this part of SSC covers
illegal activities such as incest, child abuse, animal abuse and other unsavoury activities,
When relating it to relationships consensual should be that all relationship items should be
agreed upon. There are good Dominants and bad Dominants. Holding onto your wits and
enforcing your rights should keep the bad ones at bay. This means that no rules should be
forced upon you that you don't want todo.
All in all, keep it safe, sane and consensual.
Today's to do List :
1) Today after reading this, write about it in the safety section of your file.
2) Write on your Ice cream sticks, on one write SAFE on another write SANE and on the
last one write CONSENSUAL and keep them as they all be used again in one or
two days time.
Grand Master Clinton
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Good Evening Master Jamy
Here is my work for today :
1) Today after reading this, write about it in the safety section of your file.
2) Write on your Ice cream sticks, on one write SANE, on another write SANE and on the
last one write CONSENSUAL and keep them as they all be used again in one or
two days time.
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Thanks for listening to me through this lesson on SSC, Safe Sane & Consensual. I do
hope & pray that you learned more about SSC and what it all does for the
participants and how it can protect you both.
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